What a whirlwind it has been over the past 2 months. It has been a little quiet on here, we have had quite the crazy/busy life lately. As some of you may know if you follow my IG stories, we made the move from Minnesota to Kentucky. What started as just a random thought, turned into reality over the course of 5 months. My husband took a new job in Kentucky & within 45 days we had listed our MN home, put in an offer on a KY home & we began the chaos of packing and moving. We closed on our MN home and KY home on the same day, with that being said we had 2 weeks in "limbo". Living in MN without our own home, my husband finishing out his MN job and living out of a camper for 2 weeks, thankful for our friends to set that arrangement up for him. The girls and I were living at my moms house for a week and then we took our girls trip to FL.
When I say chaos, there is no hesitation, it was chaos. We flew back from FL on a Saturday and were driving to KY the next morning. Within 24 hours, the girls and I had been in 7 different states. CRAZY! If you have moved states with kids you will know it is not ideal, but it's life and you buckle up and try to enjoy the ride.
Why the move? We needed a change of scenery, has been my most common answer. What does that mean? I'm not sure. I can't pinpoint what change we needed, but my husband and I both felt like "there was more to life"...it's a hard feeling to put into words. We were over MN winters, my husband felt like he needed a change in career, another hard feeling to explain, we wanted to live somewhere that we didn't constantly have the feeling of "we need to get out of here"... Is Kentucky the solution? Who knows! But how will you ever know if you never try...right? The beauty of this move, it makes you brave, it strengthens you, it pushes you beyond your breaking point, it brings out your fears, it brings out lots of tears... and although some of these things don't sound beautiful, you have to take the good with the bad...because that is what creates character, strength & ultimately beauty.
We have now been in KY for 3 weeks (this is our 3rd full week), any complaints? No! Don't get me wrong we miss friends and family, we miss the convenience, the familiarity. But I thrive on challenges, adventure & figuring out the "unknown". Although scary, it is an exciting new change for our family.
How are the kids doing? They miss friends, family, familiarity, but they are thriving! They are meeting new friends as school, they are excited to go to school and be with friends, they are in a new studio for dance and gymnastics and thriving! Is it scary for them? Absolutely! But the scare isn't stopping them, it is a "push through and make it the best you can"!
Have we had tough days? YES! There have been tough days when I just need a good cry. My mom came down for a couple hours one evening when she was close for business & when she left... I needed a good cry. It was so hard to see familiarity & have that safe/comfort and then watch it leave. It's tough! But in that moment, I knew that I needed to cry, I needed to feel those emotions because for the past 2 months, I have been the rock. I have been the one that put my sad feelings to the back because I had to be strong for my kids & my husband. I couldn't show the fear, I couldn't show the sadness, I couldn't show the weakness because in order to make this move positive and great I had to be strong for them. So in that moment of weakness, I went into the closet had a good cry, composed myself and went on with the bedtime routines! MAMA you need to cry!! You need to have your feelings! It isn't weakness...although it feels like it... you have to feel! The good days, the excitement & the adventures have outweighed the tough days & that is what MATTERS!
How is my husband liking his new job? It's new! It's a new territory. It's a completely different everyday for him. But he comes home happy. He gets excited about things! He comes home and tells me about his day. Friends...if you have a husband or significant other that comes home for years pissed off, stressed, doesn't talk about his job...or when he/she does it is always NEGATIVE...some days you want them to go back to work because their mood kills your entire home vibe...you will understand how this change is INCREDIBLE! We got to a point before the decision of a new job and a new move where I would dread my own husband coming home because you wouldn't know what mood he would be in, you wouldn't know how awful his day went at work...I finally said to him "you need to make a change either job...mindset with current job or the girls and I are gone"...I refuse to live a life where you're walking on eggshells. I refuse to put my kids in a toxic environment.
So only 3 weeks in to his BIG move, this scary change...I can honestly say this move has been great! I can honestly say, typing this in tears, that I have my husband back! My kids are loving their new house, their new studio, their new school, we may not have it all together yet, but honestly together we have it all.
Why share this with strangers? Because if you are reading this and you have that feeling in your gut like you need a change or that there is more to life...TAKE THE JUMP! MAKE THE MOVE! We have one life to live...make it great! Make it memorable! Make it something your proud of! We often get so stuck in the "safe zone" the comfort zone & within that space we settle. WHY SETTLE for anything less than you deserve. If you go to work & come home to your family and can't be happy, smile or enjoy your family...make a change! Family is precious. Your time with your family is limited, so enjoy every second you have! Although we moved from our families, we did what we thought was best for our children and ourselves. I wouldn't go back, I love the new adventure and journey we are on! Kentucky is beautiful country!
This move has been nothing short of stressful, but it was stressful because we had to make it as smooth as possible for our children. I had everything mapped out and planned for them months before we even moved. I needed the best school district for them, I had personally reached out to the principal to talk and make sure I was prepared 100% before the school year began. We planned our move so that they were here before the school year began, so they weren't transitioning into a new school in the middle of the year. We had gymnastics and dance mapped out and signed up months before they began. My husband and I moved everything down to KY 2 weeks before the girls arrived so that when they arrived their bedrooms were set up, decorated, we had bought new bedding and some of the things they had been asking for awhile, just so they were excited when they arrived and that they had "their space" already and feeling at home.
I'm not saying quit your job tomorrow, without another job lined up. Or sell your house without another house to move into...but if you have that slight feeling, don't ignore it. We knew moving would be tough, scary & sad, but we also knew that it would be great!
It's been a hot minute...sorry for the long winded post! Thanks for sharing your time and day with me.
That's all for now...
XO - KK
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